Fear #
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Fear of Not Being Cared For
Fear Description
This fear causes you to feel as if there’s no one to care for your needs except you. Even while you look for the joy of being cared for by others, you struggle with being able to care for yourself. You can recognize this fear when you believe your own needs are a problem. When others are caring for themselves in a healthy way, your fear interprets their actions as selfish. It tells you that you’ve been abandoned and are alone, inviting you to be a martyr for the cause rather than caring for yourself in a healthy way also.
VALIDATION IDENTITY
When insecure, a Blindfolded Optimist makes the leadership mistake of rushing past problems. Instead of facing the truth, they avoid uncomfortable realities and focus only on a positive future. They believe chasing future momentum will help them avoid present discomfort, but in reality, it creates a disconnect between the future vision and the present challenges. Eventually, people disengage from the mission.
Leadership Mistake
Rushing past problems, creating a disconnect between vision and present challenges.
Risk Factor: Low Engagement
Impact Statement
You encourage engagement by facing the challenges of our present reality with eyes wide open.
Core Value
What you value is an important element for any successful team or organization. However, in limbo moments when you feel stress, pressure, change or uncertainty, your values will become out-of-balance, causing you to build unbalanced teams and create an unbalanced culture.
The core value of those with this fear is Engagement. Without awareness, in times of stress you will overvalue Activity and undervalue Stillness.
You Undervalue
Stillness
Your Core Value
Engagement
You Overvalue
Activity
Core Doubt
Every leader pursuing an ambitious horizon experiences doubts. You will experience relational doubts ("Do they like me?") and you will experience mission doubts ("Am I doing a good job?"). At the root of it all is a mindset doubt.
If this is your top fear, your core doubt is "I doubt I will get what I need". Here are also a few questions that may help you see and understand your doubt better.
Hiding Question
Do people care about me only when I do what they want?
Core Doubt
I doubt I will get what I need
Proving Question
Is my enthusiasm an attempt to disguise my doubts?
Non-Supportive Habits
You may choose to move on from challenging situations too soon, without regard for your commitments.
The Limiting Beliefs
No one has your back. You need to avoid putting yourself at risk.
3 Things to Apply
1. Live The Adventure You’ve Been Missing
Recognize there’s no external destination or adventure that guarantees self-discovery. You can live what you’ve been missing now. Much like a tree finding its own path to grow, understand that the joy of self-discovery is in the very fabric of your journey, not just waiting at the end of the trail.
2. Embrace Stillness
Reframe the moments that make you feel lonely into opportunities for meaningful solitude. Finding balance amid the winds of activity ensures harmonious and sustainable growth. Engage moments of stillness like tree branches at rest.
3. Focus on Rooted Presence
You don’t lose who you are by making commitments. Instead, you find more of your potential through being planted. Like a tree deepening your roots, discover more of your potential through the strength found in being firmly planted in your journey.
3 Things to Avoid
1. Avoid Constant Busyness
Recognize that busyness is a calendar full of distractions keeping you from where you need to grow and develop. Instead, let the winds of focused engagement gently sway, allowing your mind and efforts to breathe, fostering sustained growth in the fertile soil of purposeful endeavor.
2. Don’t Stay In Planning Mode
Constantly planning the next “thing” keeps your mind from fully embracing challenges, and the adventure of transformation, that are right in front of you. The very obstacles you want to sidestep can be where the roots of transformative adventure lie.
3. Don't Mistake Movement for Progress
Not all movement means progress. As you engage your pursuits, choose to be like a tree that is actively growing rather than one that is simply swaying back and forth.
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